What is it that you shy away from?
Fear is something, that seems to get swept under the rug a lot. We seem to think that acknowledging our fears gives them power. How many times have you been worried sick, literally to the point of illness about someone or something? Maybe you've found yourself locked up, completely unable to move? Or maybe you've found yourself deep in the grasp of anxiety, thoughts racing far beyond your control, petrified while your body seemed to betray you?
You know what? Let's ease into this...
When I was in my younger days— and I still am— I was terrified of the dark. I'd sleep cocooned in my blanket facing the wall because I honestly believed that if I couldn't see the monsters, they would not be able to see me.
Now this sounds rather childish, but until just recently, I found that this same habit actually dictated the way I was behaving in other aspects of my life. Being a psychology major I have somewhat of an understanding on how we can be conditioned into certain behaviors. In my case it started out with things like being afraid of the dark or being shy around people from a young age.
Some of us may be thinking, yeah there were plenty of people like that when we were younger, and I'd be one of the first to agree. What I'm getting at is for one reason or another I came to fear my fears instead of accepting them. If I had to use the bathroom at night, I'd run the fastest forty known to the human race so I could spend the least amount of time possible exposed in the dark, exposed to my fear. To put it simply ,I hated being uncomfortable.
It's by no means a stretch to say fear makes us uncomfortable, sometimes to the point where we turn away, or try our hardest to bury it.
What if there was another way?
What if we saw our fears as nothing more than an idle thought?
What if we simply accepted our irrational fears and watched them as we would a beautiful sunset.
What happens then?
I'm not saying you need to completely drop your coping mechanisms, not by any means.
I'm saying keep an eye on the things you push away from. You know, that which you find yourself putting off till later. You might be surprised.
I know I was.